I am sure that most of us have heard of this quote, or some version of it:
There are only two lasting bequests we can hope to give our children. One of these is roots, the other, wings.
After writing the post on being an empty nester, I have been thinking a lot about letting go—giving Amanda those wings for her to fly high, but making sure that she is grounded. She is now moving toward the stage of her life where she is figuring out life after college, what she wants to do, who she wants to be with. She currently is in a serious relationship that reminds me so much of her father and me. One one hand, it scares me to death, but on the other hand, it makes me so proud. (It also makes me realize how freaking young Joel and I were when we were in engaged!)
Sometimes it has been hard for me to let her fly…sometimes literally…she’s been to Singapore, Malaysia before she was 18 and then spent six weeks in Mexico right after high school graduation. But I have always hoped that I have given her those roots too. We have given her the tools necessary to be successful, but we have also taught her to mind her manners, to be polite, to remember the people who came before her and to treat others how you want to be treated. She says yes ma’am and no ma’am (to the shock of many), but she would rather go spend two weeks in rural Louisiana with my parents than spend it on the beach. While she has been places and seen thing and met some of the wealthiest people in the world, she hasn’t let that change her, and hope that it doesn’t.
While I have been giving her wings, I think I have sort of grounded myself, as I think we, as mothers tend to do. Now, I’m trying to give myself those same wings. I’m trying to let myself do what I’d like to do, to learn new things, to bring those things that I put on the back burner, up to the front. It took a year for me to figure out that it’s ok for me to do what I want, and I’m beginning to enjoy myself. I have loads of things I want to do and I am having fun. It’s my time to fly and I can’t wait to soar!